Adrienne M. Koller, LPC

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Are You a Perfectionist?

Introduction

Being a perfectionist is not always a bad thing. It can help you achieve success and set the bar high for yourself. However, it can also lead to self-doubt and anxiety because you feel like you're never doing enough or achieving enough. In this blog, I'll discuss what perfectionism is, how to tell if you are a perfectionist, why people become obsessed with being perfect, and how to overcome your obsession with achieving perfection in everything that you do.

What is perfectionism?

Perfectionism is the belief that you must be perfect. It's a form of self-sabotage, and it can lead to procrastination, anxiety and depression, exhaustion, and burnout.

Perfectionists are often afraid of making mistakes--so they delay acting until they're sure they'll succeed at the task at hand. As a result of this fear of failure, perfectionists often put themselves in situations where failure is inevitable; when it happens (which it will), they feel like failures themselves--even though there was never any real chance for success in the first place!

This pattern leads directly to another problem: when people achieve their goals but don't feel good about them because they weren't perfect enough or didn't work hard enough on them beforehand--because those things were required by their definition of success (that being "perfection"). This can lead directly into chronic self-criticism which then causes further problems down the road such as burnout or depression because now we've got high expectations combined with low self-esteem over our perceived lack thereof due largely from our own unrealistic standards set forth earlier on. It’s like an endless cycle.

How can you tell if you are a perfectionist?

  • Do you have a hard time accepting criticism?

  • Do you feel like you need to be perfect?

  • Do you worry about making mistakes?

  • Do you procrastinate because of your fear of failure?

  • Are there times when things don't go your way, and this makes you angry or frustrated?

Why are perfectionists so hard on themselves?

When you're a perfectionist, the fear of failure is everywhere. You're afraid of failing at work and making your boss angry; you're afraid of messing up on a project and disappointing your colleagues; you're afraid of making a mistake in front of friends or family members who are watching.

The reason for this is simple: perfectionists want to avoid criticism at all costs. They're afraid that if they make mistakes or fail at something important, people will think less of them--or even begin to hate them! So rather than risk being criticized by anyone (including themselves), perfectionists strive for perfection in every area possible--even when it comes at great cost to themselves physically/emotionally/mentally, etc... Perfectionists are their own worst critics. Why? Because they have this inner voice that always says, “You’re not good enough”. And this leads to unrealistically high standards and feelings of worthlessness.

Do I have to be a perfectionist to succeed in life?

I'm sure you've heard the phrase "Perfection is the enemy of good." It's a common saying that many people have heard, but what does it mean? The idea behind this saying is that perfectionism can prevent us from getting started or completing our work. We often believe that there will never be a time when we are able to create something without flaws and mistakes, so we put off starting altogether because we think our first attempt will be imperfect.

Perfectionists who procrastinate often find themselves feeling overwhelmed by all the things they need to do, which makes it difficult for them to pick up where they left off after taking breaks from their work--or even just getting started at all!

How can I overcome my perfectionism?

If you're a perfectionist, it's important to remember that the things that make us unique are also what make us special. We all have our own strengths and weaknesses--and some of them may be different from other people's! Perfectionists often put pressure on themselves to always do their best because they feel like they're competing with everyone else around them. In reality, this kind of thinking can lead to burnout and stress rather than success: if we're always trying so hard just because someone else might do better than us at something (even if they don't), then how will anyone ever get any work done? It's important not only for your mental health but also for your physical health as well--so take some time out every day where you just relax and enjoy yourself without worrying about anything else happening in life right now!

There is a difference between striving for excellence and being obsessed with being perfect.

The first step to understanding yourself is recognizing that there is a difference between striving for excellence and being obsessed with being perfect. Perfectionism is a form of mental illness, and it can lead to anxiety, depression, and procrastination if left untreated. If you find yourself constantly criticizing your work or others' work as inadequate or not up to par--or if this type of thinking has been going on since childhood—let’s explore this. on. It's important to remember that perfectionism can be harmful to your health and can lead you down the path of self-destruction if left unchecked.

It's time to start examining yourself in a new light.