Do you see some of these traits in yourself? Or maybe others.......
- Do you have a hard time accepting criticism?
- Do you feel like you need to be perfect?
- Do you worry about making mistakes?
- Do you procrastinate because of your fear of failure?
- Are there times when things don't go your way, and this makes you angry or frustrated?
When you're a perfectionist, the fear of failure is everywhere. You're afraid of failing; you're afraid of messing up; you're afraid of disappointing others; you're afraid of making a mistake in front of friends or family members who are watching.
The reason for this is simple: perfectionists want to avoid criticism at all costs. They're afraid that if they make mistakes or fail at something important, people will think less of them--or even begin to hate them! So rather than risk being criticized by anyone (including themselves), perfectionists strive for perfection in every area possible--even when it comes at great cost to themselves physically/emotionally/mentally, etc... And what's worse, they are their own worst critics. Why? Because they have this inner voice that always says, “You’re not good enough”. And this leads to unrealistically high standards and feelings of worthlessness.
Do you battle with:
- Shame
- Feeling unhappy
- Feeling drained
- Procrastination
- Anxiety
- Difficulty making decisions
- Feeling worthless
- High standards for yourself and others
- High stress
Are you:
- Highly motivated
- Focused
- Gifted
- Have high standards
If you're a perfectionist, it's important to remember that the things that make us unique are also what make us special. We all have our own strengths and weaknesses--and some of them may be different from other people's! Perfectionists often put pressure on themselves to always do their best because they feel like they're competing with everyone else around them. In reality, this kind of thinking can lead to burnout and stress rather than success: if we're always trying so hard just because someone else might do better than us at something (even if they don't), then how will anyone ever get any work done? It's important not only for your mental health but also for your physical health as well--so take some time out every day where you just relax and enjoy yourself without worrying about anything else happening in life right now!
