When you look in the mirror, what do you see?
- You were abandoned by a parent and find it hard to trust or get close to anyone. You're struggling with your identity, boundaries, or relationships.
- You had a crappy childhood with emotionally unavailable parents. You have a lot of unstable friendships, failed relationships; you have a hard time regulating your emotions or find yourself being really needy, struggling to be independent.
- You made some poor choices and found yourself caught up in the legal system. You're coping with drugs or alcohol to make it all stop or go away. You just want to forget.
- You served in the military and can't stop seeing that shit, jump at every sound, clear the house or watch the perimeter; or wonder why your the one who came home and they didn't. Maybe now that you're out, you can't function. You feel alone, useless, not sure where you fit in....just want to go back so you know where to be and what to do at any given time of the day. You wonder, "it might even be worth stomaching the food at the chow hall".
- You're a badass in your career but an absolute train-wreck in your personal life. In other words, you're a successful exec struggling to find balance in their life.
- You’re a 1st responder struggling to turn shit off, can't switch between your roles, or just wish people would get that sometimes you're numb and cold; that's how you cope with the shit you deal with, day in and day out. You do what you have to do and I get it.
- You're a perfectionist, the fear of failure is everywhere. You're afraid of failing at work and making your boss angry; you're afraid of messing up on a project and disappointing your colleagues; you're afraid of making a mistake in front of friends or family members who are watching. You're tired of that inner voice saying "You're not good enough". You look in the mirror and see -worthless, shame, unrealistic high standards, can't make decisions, drained.
Change is hard, asking for help can be even harder, and you need someone who gets that and can help you though. That’s where I come in. Whether it's trauma therapy work, skills building, or goal setting, together we will come up with a plan that works for you. If you just need to unload with someone who will listen without judgement, that's fine too. Whatever you need, you’re not going to get it unless you stop playing the avoidance game.
So... what are you waiting for?